So, it amazes me how cruel and inconsistent people can be, even when encountering someone who has been nothing but supportive and kind. How do these people view themselves? Do they think that they are right to completely shut someone out? Or do they simply not care and want to keep themselves happy believing whatever it is that they believe?
It is when you are shut out that you really wonder how well they knew you...or respected you for that matter. You ask yourself things like...why do I deserve this? What did I do?
Sometimes those people will have the decency to tell you with out being asked...some you will ask and get not reason, and finally the cases where you dont ask and you dont get an answer. In the rare cases that you do get a reason, then the person actually has some respect for you.
Then you gotta figure out how to deal with it. Do you act like a complete jerk to them too? Do you forgive them? Do you simply ponder what to do and never actually deal with it until so much time goes by you just forget or ignore them? I think all of these things happen...it just depends on how long you spend in each step that defines your relationship....1st comes the pondering..then jerk attitude...and finally forgiveness. Some people wont get past the 1st or 2nd and will just continue to be mean towards the one who did them wrong...And some will just forgive the wrong because it's in their nature.
Really, forgiveness is the only way to go. Why not forgive people? If anything forgiving someone will make them feel like a jerk...and actually feel bad for what they did. But thats not why you should forgive someone. You do it to relieve yourself. If you forgive it's getting that anger off your shoulders, it's giving you a clear conscience about the situation, so if there was any doubt about the situation and whose fault it was to begin with; by giving your forgiveness you're basically saying, "I dont care about what happened with us, I just want things to go back to how they were."
Then the ball is in the other persons court.
~Caitlin
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