Ever notice how a lot of the things we say we dont like we end up doing? For example testing people. Everyone hates being tested...usually if they fail, because thats when they find out it was a test, and feel they were taken by surprise.
Since every human knows what other people expect they could easily pass any test as long as they know they are being tested, via studying. "Testing" people may not be a written exam but it is an important one. Usually they are being tested for a reason, maybe the one issuing the test doesnt even know it till half way through, or until the other fails as well.
But why do we do it? I would say it happens when we're hurt. We want to see what the person who "cares" about us will do to prove that they care. This is where people get offended; they care but didnt want to address the situation they way you wanted. However, it all seems like common sense, to me at least:
If you care about someone you would as whats wrong, and what you can do to help; or if you know you did something wrong, do everything in your power to make it right. How difficult is that???
Not very, but oddly enough it's how alot of friends are lost.
Lost for a reason? Maybe.
Then we should ask, if they knew it was a test would they have passed? Would that still be worth the friendship? In most cases yes.
But there is a point where you have to decide who is worth it, when you've had enough of pretending and want to see the truth. At this point you just want who wants to be in your life, not those 1,352 friends on facebook who half you dont know, and of that half you only maybe talk to 200 (Thats being generous). Of those 200, who would actually care if your cat died, or if your boyfriend cheated on you?
You reach the point where you want the pretenders out, and you want only those in your life who care as much about you as you do about them.
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